The smallest card of your wedding suite, yet one of the biggest headaches for brides. Let's make sure your RSVP card send guests the right message and does all the boundary setting you need!
WHAT TO PUT ON AN RSVP CARD
HOW TO CHOOSE YOUR RSVP DATE
I’m going to take all of the mystery out of this for you: one month before your wedding date. Yep, that’s it! Why? Your caterer will need a final head count about two weeks before your wedding, so this will give you some cushion room. This will also give you enough time to finalize your table seating charts. Plus, it’s super easy for your guests to remember, instead of picking a random date.
One of my amazing brides who was on a short turnaround time for her custom invitations set her RSVP date 2.5 months before the actual wedding. When I asked her why she chose that specific date, her response was “I don’t know, it just sounded good”. *INSERT FACE PALM HERE*. We were able to get her to change the RSVP date and she was so happy we did because she winded up needing to make changes that she couldn’t have projected that early.
HOW TO WORD THE RESPONSE OPTIONS
Technically you could just go with the good old “YES” or “NO” but, i’ll be perfectly honest -- YA BORING. You could also go the formal route: “accept(s) with pleasure” and “decline(s) with regret”. Here’s the issue with this: unless you went all Emily Dickinson on your actual invitations, the tone won’t match. You just went from shouting from the rooftops with unapologetic, bold “married AF” wording on your invitations to sounding like a completely different type of bride on the RSVPS. Be consistent with your tone.
Fun Fact: Not once has a set of invitations left this studio with the above.
Here are some examples of what past brides have put for their RSVP wording.
- “ PARTY TIME READY / SAVE ME SOME CAKE”
- “ ALL THE YES” / “SORRY HAVE TO PASS”
- “ FLYING TO CLOUD NINE” / “STAYING GROUNDED”
- “ TEAM PARTY” / “TEAM MISSING OUT”
AVOIDING AWKWARD WEDDING RSVP SITUATIONS
Imagine this. You send out your wedding invitations to your friend and get a response back for two. Crap. Now you have to call her and explain that the invitation was a solo invite, not for her boyfriend that you’ve never met. The last thing you need on your wedding planning plate is drama
Include a line on the RSVP card that says “# of seats reserved in your name (1).
Now, there is a clear boundary for who is invited without explicitly having an awkward convo. I offer this as an additional service to my brides and one jokingly referred to it as “WEDDING BOUNCER INSURANCE”. She was more than happy to add this on to her RSVPs to avoid the bridezilla meltdown her cousin had from uninvited guests RSVPing to her wedding!
Highly suggest placing postage on the RSVP envelopes on behalf of your guests. One Forever Stamp should be enough. It’s a simple way to show your wedding guests appreciation by not having them pay for their own postage. Plus, you’ll likely get the RSVP cards sent back quicker because all they have to do is pop their card back in the mail.
TRACKING YOUR RSVP RESPONSES
A Google Doc or Excel sheet will be your BFF during this process. If you already have your wedding guest list written out, just add a column for their RSVP response. By the time your RSVP date gets closer, you can just filter the response column for any blanks and now you can easily see who you need to follow-up with.
AVOID GIVING WEDDING GUESTS MULTIPLE WAYS TO RSVP
It can be tempting to tell guests to RSVP through your wedding website. Not a fan. If you’re sending out physical RSVP cards and then encouraging guests to RSVP via your website -- you just created an opportunity for confusion. Now you’re waiting for physical response cards and also checking your website notifications instead of just keeping track of one thing. You will also have guests that just aren't technologically gifted (we all have one or two in the fam). Stick to one or the other (obviously you know my preference!) and you’ll save yourself a headache.
That’s your crash course on RSVP cards! Have a suggestion for RSVP wording? Pop your “Yes / No” RSVP options below in the comments!